And not just sick in the body but in your mind, because you start obsessing. The questions going through my mind are: How on earth are there Kalashnikovs and rocket launchers in the heart of Paris? True, this may not be what James Madison had in mind when he was writing the Bill of Rights. And keep in mind that when Huckabee ran for president in , he won the Iowa caucuses. Because only Alphas are allowed to have a validated reality.
A domination tactic to reduce your confidence. A distancing tactic to make you go away. Once again, they want you to believe your verbal skills are the problem. Psychiatric Put-Downs: Gaslighting, using clinical language. Calling someone abnormal, crazy, defective, delusional , insane, pathological, etc. The non-monogamists who think they own the dating pool. This game is derived from the more general game: Tricking the other guy into believing that the dating pool is all about your needs, not his.
Pretending that the breakup was for logical reasons. In other words, someone plays the mind game of pretending he can even be reached by logic. Breakup explanations designed to hide the truth and throw you off the trail with false reasons. Breakup explanations designed to make you think that all of your good points somehow caused the breakup, when the truth is that your only mistake was in trying to date a non-monogamist. Example: Your partner attempts to convince you that all of your best relationship skills commitment, attachment, having feelings, loyalty, wanting to spend time together, etc.
Tactics designed to make you jumpy in your next relationship, by making you wonder if everything your partner says is a breakup hint. YCDNR: You Can Do No Right syndrome, a breakup symptom, a kind of temporary insanity in which proving and calling someone wrong at every opportunity becomes the goal, and subtlety and logic go out the window.
People are crafty and inventive, and so, this list of types will never exhaust all the possibilities. Because I said so. Whenever someone tells you otherwise, question his motives. Strategies designed to trick you into believing that you gave consent without consenting. Telling people to shut up, using made-up logic. Making up a rule on the spot, intended as a direct order against one specific person at this specific time, but concealed as a general rule, under a pretext that the rule applies to everyone all the time and always has.
Like John McCain did , when he tried to silence a soldier who spoke out about the lack of equipment in the Iraq War.
Someone will always try to think up a creative excuse for abridging the First Amendment. Mind games are all about using the logic du jour instead of the logic de jure. Mind games are made up on the spot: They are ad hoc , ad lib , and adolescent.
They try to weasel out of promises. They pretend that something they used to enjoy about you is now somehow offensive or painful. They try to make you think that normal things like the desire for a relationship, romantic gestures, asking for sex, displays of affection, etc. Their positions on ethics change. It becomes impossible to tell whether they were faking their personalities earlier, to draw you into the relationship, or faking later, as a way of breaking out of the relationship.
You have to wonder: Was it all pretend? Was your soulmate pretending to share your ethics and values? Was everything before the breakup a lie? Or after? Is anything believable now? Can they ever be trusted again? Dump them, and warn your friends. Jekyll-and-Hyde Disorder. Housemates become totally different people when they no longer like you. Excerpts from my book in progress Principles of Psychology. Expect that all base motivations will be hidden. How to Be a Good Skeptic and a Critical Thinker: One of the elements of critical thinking, one of the elements of learning to think scientifically, is learning not to be a fool, learning that much of what you are told is said to fool you into believing things that put you at a disadvantage.
Such persons demonstrate that to them all debate is mortal combat and that shattering the self-esteem and confidence of the opponent is not off the table.
There is nothing wrong with my perceptions, thank you very much. It is the policy of all large corporations to respond with psychological tactics instead of solutions. It is also a matter of policy that your particular complaint has never happened to any other customer before and that no one else has ever complained. About anything. No matter how mild and factual your complaint is, it is company policy that you should have found a nicer way to say it.
Expect to hear such position statements and psychological tactics whenever you complain about poor service. Ignore such dismissive remarks. Show them that these tactics will backfire and will cause you to complain at a whole new level: louder, higher up, and more publicly. Brown Breakup Games The following mind games occur specifically in romantic breakups, and sometimes in the dissolution of working relationships.
The person who initiates the breakup is likely to behave in strange ways: General Tactics. Like the age difference or the height difference: Anyone who breaks up with you and gives a reason which was true when you met is playing head games with you.
Any legitimate reason to break up was a legitimate reason not to get together in the first place. They pretend to be interested in something different. They suddenly adopt the belief that you are stupid and will fall for anything. They rewrite history. We never had a relationship. That mind game comes directly from the hormones, trying to trick them into staying in any relationship at any cost. Notice that they never explain how they can plausibly have such an x-ray view of the inside of your mind, or how they can be so sure human memory is faulty and yet be so sure of their own memories.
Pretending to Be Offended. These tactics are attempts to damage your interpersonal skills and your understanding of the dating pool. When people break up with you, a part of their brain very likely the amygdala, whose functions are known to include an associative memory which can mark places and persons as disliked, unlucky, or evil labels you a persona non grata. Psychologists speak of a phenomenon called the Halo Effect, under which a liked person is assumed to be perfect in every way, and a disliked person is assumed to have no good qualities; and I have noticed a related-or-same effect, which I call the You Can Do No Right syndrome YCDNR.
The humanity! What a mindgame! It has something do do with the mental state that you are in before you start to play the game. When in gameplay and after gameplay the mental state you were previoulsy in has been altered by the misleading, unclear and unbeleviable ammount of activiety that happend in a short period of time. As a result, confuses you to think "what just happend. The definition of a mindgame is an exmample of a mindgame.
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